Thursday, August 28, 2008

My Man

I had a flat tire last night. Master noticed it after he came home from a motorcycle ride. I had apparently driven over a nail somewhere. I was not happy.

Master to the rescue! He took off my flat tire, aired up and put on my spare, and today is taking my tire to be fixed. He said they should be able to patch it. After he put on the spare last night, he drove it to the gas station to make sure it drove okay and to air up the other tires. I even got a lovely surprise this morning when I left, because he also put gas in my car while he was there!

This is what I need. I need someone who can take care of these things for me, so I don't have to deal with it or worry about it. You know, it's not like I can't handle a flat tire. But I've never actually changed a tire, although Master's now shown me how. (My dad meant to teach me how to do it, but then, well, he died.) And I wouldn't know, with any confidence, what to do with the flat tire. Do I need a new one? Can it be fixed? I was starting to try to figure all of this out last night, and Master just took care of it. That made me happy. It also made me sleep better. :)

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Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Schtuff

I don't really have anything more to report about Ricky at this time. I think his time with us was definitely not fun for him, and it was meant to be that way. We took him home Saturday night. Before we got there, Master asked Ricky what he had learned while he was with us this time. Ricky said he learned not to be bad because if he is, then it's no fun. Master said yes, and that it'll be worse next time. So we'll see. I hope it sticks.

Master and I are going away for a little trip, just the two of us, this weekend. We're leaving Saturday morning and going to the mountains, a farther south than where we've been before. We're going to hang out there on Saturday, spend the night in Calgary, and then come back sometime Sunday. I can't wait!

Is anyone else impatient for Big Love to come out with new episodes again? Master's been watching it with me on DVD, and we've finished seasons 1 and 2. Thankfully, Master likes it too! Although he spends a lot of time saying how stupid Bill is. lol Anyway, I found online that HBO isn't even going to start airing season 3 until January! So for those of us who have to wait for it to be on DVD... it's going to be a long wait. Dang it.

Meat is due with her third baby in a couple weeks. It's her first baby with her hubby now; the first two are from her first marriage. It's going to be a boy and they've picked out a name. It's a little unusual, but I like it. Because it's an unusual name, I'm not going to type it here. But for those of you familiar with Dead Poets Society, it's the first name of the football player who is the boyfriend of Chris, the girl that Knox falls in love with, son of the Danburrys. Nifty, eh?

I think that's it for now. :)

UPDATE: It didn't stick. Ricky's already gotten in trouble this week. Master's going to keep being tough on him, and we'll see what happens. He's just not sure that it's going to work or be enough.

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Saturday, August 23, 2008

Awesome Dog

This story will make you love dogs, or love them even more!

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Thursday, August 21, 2008

Oh Boy

We're having a problem with Ricky. As a refresher, he's Master's youngest (7 1/2) and he lives with his mom while Alice and John live with us. But Ricky is staying with us for the next few days.

Ricky is a doer, not a thinker. And I know it seems mean to say this, but he's not really the brightest bulb. Master would tell you the same thing. Unfortunately, Ricky takes after his mom when it comes to intellect. He also takes after her in the temper department. They both can lose their tempers pretty easily.

In the last several months, Ricky's gotten in trouble repeatedly at school and at day care for losing his temper. It's been worse the last few months. He's hit other kids and thrown things at them. He hit his teacher at school when she tried to get him to stop playing and pay attention. Yesterday he was suspended from day care for the rest of the week (today and tomorrow) because he threw a chair (presumably a little plastic one) at one of the day care workers.

Part of the problem is that Ricky has no respect for his mom. She tries to punish him when he misbehaves, and he basically laughs at her. On one hand, Master and I can kind of understand why he doesn't have much regard for her, because she's an idiot, and even Ricky can recognize that. However, he also needs to know that she's in charge and he needs to do what he's told.

So, Master picked up Ricky last night. Bertha actually has a job right now, but she hasn't been there very long, so she can't take off work to stay home with Ricky, and we really don't want her to mess up this job. John goes to his grampa's house during the day (Master's dad, my FIL) so Ricky's going to be there with them for the two days. But that's just a solution for those two days. My in-laws live on the south side, we live on the NE side, and Bertha and Ricky live on the west side, so getting Ricky to my in-laws on a daily basis is not really an option. Not to mention the fact that having John hang out during the day is one thing, but trying to wrangle both boys every day would really be too much to ask.

Ricky still respects Master and still has that fear that a young son has of his father. Master doesn't usually come down on Ricky too hard, just because he's only with us every other weekend. He might make him sit in the corner or something if he misbehaves, but it's hard to ground him when he's not even there very long. But that's changing. Master's going to be a lot tougher on him now, and really drill into his head that he needs to do what he's told, whether it's coming from him or his mom or whoever. Last night after they got back, Ricky had to help John take out the trash (which John usually does by himself) and then John got to go play until bed and Ricky had to sit in our room with us and watch Olympics, because that's what I was watching.

Master said that he's been treating Ricky about the same as he has the other two, but he thinks now that maybe Ricky's different enough that he can't do that any more. He said he's going to try the "Suzy" way of parenting - being tougher and using a lot more discipline. lol

I hope this works. Master met with Ricky's principal at school after he had hit his teacher, and of course the principal suggested putting Ricky on some sort of medication. Master is completely against it, but he said last night that he feels like Ricky's running out of chances for that to NOT happen. I worry that if Ricky doesn't learn a little respect, that he's going to grow up putting me in the same category as his mom. (We kind of wonder if part of Ricky's disrespect is gender based, just because the main female figure in his life is a complete idiot.) I told Master last night that I'm not confident at this point that Ricky has any real respect for me. And if it ever gets to the point where he's blatantly disrespectful towards me, then I'm going to have a serious problem with that. Master agreed and said he wouldn't let it get to that point. I guess I just don't want it to get a point where Master feels like he has to choose between me or Ricky, you know? Which is why I hope that things change for the better. I'm really worried. I mean, what kind of kid gets suspended from day care?

Feel free to send good vibes our way. If you pray, please pray for us. It feels like this is a turning point for Ricky. I just hope he turns the right way.

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Sunday, August 17, 2008

Animal Pictures

These are all pictures taken at various times at Elk Island National Park. I'm not sure why this first one turned out kind of blurry - it was right after I'd gotten my new digital camera, so I'm sure it has to do with that - but it's a coyote.


Deer

Rabbit


Moose


Gopher


Baby Bison

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Friday, August 15, 2008

It's Friday morning. I'm tired. I have a headache. (I think it's just my standard period headache.) I'm alone in the office all day. I'm so very tempted to go find a corner and take a nap.

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Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Bob

Everyone, you have to go read this article. Have. To. It's not terribly long, it's a neat story, and it's just dang funny.

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Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Bits

It's really quiet at work this week. There's only two other people in the office where I work, and they're both on vacation this week. So, it's just me. It's kind of nice to have the place to myself. For example, I can be a little late to work and no one knows the difference! But I wouldn't want it to be like this all the time. It's just too quiet for that.

I'm really enjoying watching the Olympics. I had fun watching the men's gymnastics last night. I, like a lot of people, had pretty much counted them out once both of the Hamm twins had withdrawn. But they really showed their stuff last night! All things considered, a bronze medal is pretty darn good, and I'm happy for them, and I'm happy that they're thrilled with it.

It was really hot last weekend. The high on Friday was 32 C, which is low to mid 90's F. Saturday was 30. I stayed home and basically did nothing. I was cranky because I was hot and uncomfortable. I would go somewhere else and cool off, but I can never think of anywhere to go for hours where I'm not going to be bored. Really, the only place I can think of to go for hours on end is the mall, and I'd get bored there in a hurry. If I'm not shopping, I don't want to be at a mall. And even when I am shopping, I get what I need and get out of there!

Anyway, it's supposed to be hot again this weekend. (It's cooler right now because it's raining. The high today is only 19-20 C.) We don't have the boys this weekend, so Master suggested we go somewhere for the weekend. He got a new (not brand new, just new to him) car a few weeks ago, and he'd love to take it on a little trip. So now we're trying to figure out where we can go that's not going to cost a lot. Oh, and someplace that's not going to require a lot of walking or hiking...

My ankle is doing much better, but it's still not normal yet. I have an Ace-type ankle thing that I wear most of the time. Today was the first day since I hurt it that I could wear normal shoes; I've been wearing soccer sandals for the last 10 days. And I still can't wear normal shoes with the Ace thing on. So, Master and I could drive out to the mountains, but if we can't walk around much, would it be worth it? Maybe, maybe not. We'll have to think about it.

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Saturday, August 09, 2008

Olympics

The Olympics have begun!

Master doesn't like them. He doesn't understand the big deal in watching sports that we would otherwise not normally pay any attention to.

I love the Olympics. I always watch them. I love that it's the whole world competing. I love seeing all those athletes who don't really have a chance of winning a medal, but are still so excited to be there. I love hearing all the stories behind the athletes. I just love all of it!

So I'll be spending a good chunk of the next couple weeks watching the Olympics... and staying off my ankle!

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Wednesday, August 06, 2008

Quotes

One reason I don't drink is that I want to know when I am having a good time.
-- Nancy Astor


It takes hundreds of nuts to hold a car together, but it takes only one of them to scatter it all over the highway.
-- Evan Esar, Esar's Comic Dictionary


Drawing on my fine command of the English language, I said nothing.

-- Robert Benchley

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Monday, August 04, 2008

Day After

So, Master and I talked last night. By the end of the day, I was kind of frustrated. (See previous post.) He said I still have too much of my independence going on. I agreed. I told him I'd like to not have to ask for everything, for him to pay attention and notice enough to anticipate some things that I would need or want. He tells me he doesn't know how he's supposed to know what I want or need if I don't tell him. Personally, I think some things would be common sense, but I will give him credit that he warned me long before I ever came up here that he doesn't pick up on hints or stuff like that.

In the end, we resolved that I need to tell him more of what I need and want so that he can learn. And I need him to ask if I want or need something, so that it's not always on me. I like when we can sort things out. :)

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Sunday, August 03, 2008

Help

I'm a fairly independent kind of person. If you ask my mom, I was independent just about from the get-go. I'm used to taking care of myself. I've gotten better about asking for help, but I still don't do it a lot.

Last night, Master and I went to Elk Island. It was a really nice evening and we were going to do some walking/hiking on one of the trails there. We were going along when I stepped on some ground that was not even, and I didn't realize that it wasn't even. My ankle rolled hard. I initially thought I was in big trouble because I was in a lot of pain and I swear I heard a crack when my ankle rolled. Fortunately, after waiting a moment, I was doing a little better, and Master and I started heading back to the car. I could feel a little pain every time I stepped on it, but nothing too bad.

However, after sitting in the car for a while, it started stiffening and I could tell it was swelling. Master took a couple pictures of my ankle last night when we got home, so I'll try to post them sometime. It's still all swollen and stiff today, so I'm not moving around much, although I can get around when I need to.

Now, all of that to say that Master told me last night to tell him whenever I need anything. I mean, he always tells me that, but now he even means the little things. Last night he got me more to drink before we went to bed. Today he said to tell him if I need help with anything. I asked him to put my socks on for me this morning because I was having issues. So it's not like I'm unwilling to ask, you know?

However, I guess I also was thinking that Master would offer to help, to do things, without me having to ask. Not so. It's usually not that way, and I guess I've gotten used to it, but I thought it might be different when I'm actually injured and having trouble getting around. For example, one of my jobs around the house is the dishwasher - run it through when it's full and then empty it when it's finished. I hooked it up today while Master was gone and I was kind of hoping that he'd offer to empty it when he got back. No deal. I didn't ask for help because I didn't need. I'm perfectly capable of emptying the dishwasher, which is what happened today. I guess I just get sad to think that he doesn't notice or think of such things himself. It comes down to the fact that I might ask for help when I need it, but I won't ask for help just because I can. If I can do it okay on my own, then that's what I'll do.

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