Saturday, October 15, 2011

I did NOT see this coming

I have a new family member. Not through birth or marriage. He's 45 years old and I didn't know he existed until two days ago.

As I think I've mentioned before, my dad was adopted by my grandparents when he was 11. He was adopted with his one younger brother, so even though my dad was adopted, my uncle and his daughters (my cousins Robyn and Kyra) are still my biological relations. My uncle died 19 years ago, three years before my dad died, when I was only 14, so it's not like I knew him all that well.

Apparently he had a bit of a secret.

Turns out that before he and my aunt (Robyn and Kyra's mom) met and married, and while he was still in college, he had gotten his then-girlfriend pregnant. The baby was given up for adoption at birth.

I never knew anything about this, nor did Robyn or Kyra. Apparently my uncle told his wife about it before they married, but that was the end of it. And now all these years later... here he is!

So I have a new cousin, and Robyn and Kyra have a new half brother! Wow. I mean... wow. This is the kind of stuff that happens in movies, right? Apparently he's never married, doesn't have any kids, and both of his adoptive parents have died. He realized that he didn't really have any family, so he went looking for his birth parents. He found his birth mom a couple years ago and she gave him my uncle's name. He hired an investigator, who called Kyra a couple days ago. She and Robyn have both spoken to their new brother by phone and he lives a few hours away from them, so he's going to visit them in a few weeks.

Isn't this crazy? I'm still a little amazed about it, but since my aunt knew that there was a baby that had been given up for adoption, it's certainly plausible. When I talked to Kyra about it, she said that if something feels off when they meet, then they'll ask for a sibling DNA test, which the new brother has offered to do. But she said that based on the phone conversations, he seems genuine and totally fits with the family.

Who knew I would get a brand new cousin at this point?



Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yeah that is crazy...but good crazy. Thanks for sharing such a great news story!

October 19, 2011 9:34 PM  

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