Monday, May 28, 2012

Good time on the horizon

Mom is flying up here in a couple weeks for a visit.  She's going to be here for nearly two weeks, which is a long visit for us, but we're going to be in the mountains for a week, so we'll really only have 4 or 5 days here in Edmonton.  I'm looking forward to the time with her, but I'm really excited about going to the mountains.  I haven't been in several months and I'm having withdrawal.  HA!  But in addition to that, part of the trip will be in an area I haven't been to before, so I'm also excited about that.  Mom and I are going to drive down to Glacier & Waterton parks (basically one big park, but Glacier is on the Montana side & Waterton is on the Alberta side) and drive back up through the mountains, going through Banff and Jasper.  Doesn't that sound awesome?  I'm really looking forward to it.

Part of Mom's visit here is going to include a "partner workout" at the conditioning place I went to a few weeks ago.  We'll be working with the same trainer I was with before and I think it'll be fun.  I like Mom being able to meet people and see places that are in my life.

We had also planned on visiting a local conservatory with Ginny before we left for the mountains.  However, when I talked to Mom today, I told her about the latest round with Ginny and that I didn't really expect to maintain that friendship any more.  As a result, I didn't think Ginny would be included in our plans.  Mom said, "That's fine with me.  Knowing how she's treated you, I don't know how much I would enjoy her company at this point anyway."

Gotta love Mom.  :-)

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Tuesday, May 22, 2012

I'm not that desperate

We're at the end of a long weekend here in Canada since today was Victoria Day.  I had lunch with Ginny on Thursday and asked what her plans were for the long weekend.  She said she was going camping with her boyfriend and some of his friends, but it wasn't far away and she didn't want to spend the whole weekend there.  So she was planning on coming back either Saturday night or Sunday morning or early afternoon.  She said she wanted to get together with me on Sunday and/or Monday.  I told her that I thought that sounded great.

I told Ginny that I was supposed to call my mom at noon on Sunday, so we could get together sometime after that.  So, after I finished the Mom call, I sent Ginny a text message to let her know and to see when she wanted to get together.  Lo and behold, she replied to let me know that she was still camping, had left her car at the boyfriend's house, so she was at his mercy as to when she would get home.  Nevermind that she'd told me previously that they were only going to be camping a few miles from his home.  But she was still going to try to get home that night or this morning so we could get together.

No big surprise, that didn't happen.  She didn't get home until about supper time tonight.  She has sent me two text messages that I haven't replied to.  The first was the one telling me that she wouldn't be home in time to hang out with me, that she was sorry, and that we would get together this coming weekend.  The second asked me how my weekend was and that she already told her boyfriend that she was hanging out with me this coming Saturday.

I haven't replied because I'm kind of ticked and I don't really know what to say.  Frankly, I don't really buy that she couldn't come home until tonight.  And that means that this is now the THIRD different boyfriend that I've been blown off for in less than a year.  With the first guy, I let it go.  With the second guy, I confronted her about it.  So with the third guy?  I don't know.  I've honestly never had a friend treat me this way.  I don't want to lose a friend, especially because I have none to spare in Edmonton, but I'm really fed up with this crap.  I kind of tempted to just cut my losses and move on, and leave her to her men.

I haven't decided for sure what I'm going to do.  What would you do in my shoes?


Monday, May 14, 2012

Smaller Love

It feels like a million years ago, but at some point I started watching the HBO show "Big Love."  Of course, I've never had HBO, so I (or we, when XM and I were still together) would have to wait until it was on DVD before I could watch.

The fifth and final season is out, so I finally got to see the end of the show.  I watched the last two episodes earlier today.  Leading up to seeing the fifth season, I wasn't enjoying the show as much.  It started out well enough, but after a while I just wanted to smack the characters because they were just repeatedly being idiots.  In my opinion.  I almost didn't even bother watching the final season, but I wanted to see how it all would end, so I caved.  The season was okay, still a fair bit of people being idiots.  I'm still mulling over the very end, though.  I won't get specific in case anyone hasn't seen it and doesn't want it to be spoiled.  But I can't decide if I like it or if it just kind of wrecked everything for me.  Right now I'm leaning towards the latter.

Has anyone else watched the end of "Big Love?"  If so, what did you think of it?


Monday, May 07, 2012

Let's Get Physical

A while back I blogged about making new local connections via Twitter, specifically with some personal trainers.  I ended up knitting a hat for one of them, Steven.  It's kind of a joke how it all came up, so I won't go into it, because it doesn't really matter.  So, he had posted on Twitter a while back that he had space in his schedule and was anyone interested in a free workout.  I replied that I would take him up on it when I finished his toque.  And that's what I did this past Friday!

My session was about 45 minutes and it was pretty cool.  It was more about balance and my core than aerobic exercise.  I used a couple different resistance bands, a medicine ball, and hand weights - not all at the same time - during the workout.  I really liked it, and I could definitely feel it the next couple days!  I want to keep doing it, but as I told Steven, it'll have to wait until I have a job so I can pay for it.

Anyway, I had given Steven the toque when I first got there, and he tried it on quickly and said that he liked it, but that was it.  So I wasn't sure if he actually did like it or if he'd really even had the chance to take a good look at it.  Once I got home and got on my laptop again, he had actually tweeted about it!  "The amazing toque that Suzy made for me!  Thank you!"  And he had attached this photo!

I'm glad to have a photo of him with the hat on.  I had considered asking him to do something like that, but decided that it might seem a little strange.  It made my day that he liked it enough to take a picture and share it!

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Tuesday, May 01, 2012

Groundhog Day

Ginny just changed her Facebook status from "single" to "in a relationship."

It was just over a month ago that I went to her place because she was freaking out because her recent ex-bf was threatening suicide.  Remember that?  It was only a couple weeks before that when she told me that, if and when that relationship ended, she was going to go on a six-month self-imposed "man fast."  Remember that one?

So now I'm just ticked.  She hadn't even said anything about dating someone and now she's in a relationship?  Last I knew she had said, after the last psycho bf, that she wasn't even interested in men right now.  I thought that was a smart thing.

A month later, she's not dipping her toe in the pool, she's in a relationship?

It finally occurred to me that I think part of what frustrates me so very much about Ginny and all her boyfriends is the fact that she doesn't really date around and take her time.  She literally JUMPS into relationships.  Why not take your time?  Why not hang out, date, get to know each other?  I really don't get it.  Not to mention the fact that it feels like Ginny isn't learning a flippin' thing from all these stupid decisions, even though she seems to get it at the time.

I don't know what to make of it.  She and I have plans to get together tomorrow night and I'm guessing she'll tell me all about it then.  I'm really not sure what I'll say.  Probably not much because I can't think of anything polite or pleasant to say.  If she says the kind of stuff that I think she's going to say, I don't know how much time we're going to be spending together going forward.  I guess I just don't have much patience with girls that are so completely focused on finding a boy to spend their time with.  What's so wrong with being single?  Why not use that time for yourself?  Why not try to improve yourself instead of repeating your mistakes?

My lack of patience is on me.  I just don't know how to be supportive of someone who... acts like this.  I don't even know quite what to call it.  Isn't self-aware?  Doesn't learn lessons?  Makes finding a man their main mission in life?  I just don't understand.

So, dear readers, what are your thoughts?  What do you think I should do?

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