Wednesday, December 26, 2012

From Hermit to Vacation

So I did end up spending Christmas Day (and Boxing Day) here at home alone.  And you know what?  It wasn't so bad.  I did think about volunteering somewhere, but as it got closer, I was actually looking forward to having the time off of work to just relax and I still had some knitting to do on Mom's Christmas gift and a couple other knitting projects to finish before I leave.  So that's what I did!  The real bonus?  It's been really cold out ( it's -20 C right now, getting down to -27 overnight), so I picked up a few groceries on my way home from work on Monday so I would not have to set foot outside the past two days.  And that's exactly what I've done.

I'm a wee bit anxious about going to work tomorrow.  Two of the three other ladies from my office are on vacation this week, so only Shauna and I are there.  She was sick pretty much all last week.  She came to the office for a few hours on Friday, but actually threw up in her trashcan before finally going home again.  Now it's been six days so I would sure hope that she's better by now, but if she came to the office Friday when she was still clearly sick, I'm a little apprehensive that she'll do it again tomorrow.  For one thing, I really don't do well listening to people vomit.  It makes my stomach churn.  But more than that, I leave town in just a few days, so this is the last time that I want to get sick.  Granted, if I didn't catch anything last week, I'm hoping that I'll be okay, but still.  I just really hope that she's either better or that she stays home.

Speaking of my vacation, I feel like I'm just itching to go!  Saturday is going to be a really long day since I have to leave my house at about 4 AM to go the airport.  I have two flights, but we're flying into a city with a major airport, since their town is not major, although we'll be spending a few days in that city before we fly home again.  So once I meet up with Mom at our quasi-destination, we still have to drive 4 1/2 hours to get to Tim and Ann's house, so it'll probably be 10 PM before we get there.  Oy.  But it'll be worth it.  I'm so excited to get there and to see them, especially Tim, of course.  We've spoken a few times in the last several weeks and I know we're both looking forward to spending some time together.  We'll be well-behaved, but just to get to talk and visit will be great.  I'm also just looking forward to getting some time with family, getting to see some new cool stuff, and having a break from the status quo.  Doesn't that sound like a great vacation?

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Monday, December 10, 2012

Merry Solitary Christmas

As I think I mentioned before, I have off of work Christmas Day and Boxing Day, but I have to work the rest of the week of Christmas, so no going out of town to be with family.  Instead, I'm meeting up with Mom at Tim and Ann's the week of New Years.

That means that I'm here in Edmonton by myself for Christmas.

Originally, I had planned on trying to get myself invited over to my friend Lizzy's house for whatever kind of Christmas dinner they had.  She's a former co-worker that I still get together with, and she and her husband are both from Europe, so they don't have any family here either.  A couple years ago she even mentioned me coming over on Christmas Day, but it was the year that my mom came, so I didn't go.  Unfortunately - for me, not for them - Lizzy and her hubby are going to the Caribbean over Christmas, so there goes that idea.

Now I don't know what to do.

The first Christmas after XM and I split up, I thought I was going to be alone at Christmas, but that's when Mom came up here instead.  I used to think I could join Ginny and her family, but that's not an option any more. With anyone else, I would feel like I'm sort of crashing a family gathering, since the couple other friends I have here, I don't know their families at all.  I kind of figured that, as long as I stayed in Edmonton, there was a good chance that this would happen at some point.  I'm trying to think positively and look at it as two extra days off in the middle of the week with no obligations whatsoever.

The truth is that I'm really sad about it.

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Sunday, December 02, 2012

I heard from XM a few months ago about something random - I don't recall now what it was - but when I replied to his initial email, I asked how his dad was doing, since he had serious problems with one of his eyes.  When XM responded, he told me that his dad had been diagnosed with cancer, and since it was in three different areas (lung, bowel, and something else), they all knew it was only a matter of time before he died.  I asked XM to keep me posted about his dad, mainly because I wanted to know when he passed on.

When I learned that, I started thinking about, when the time came, would I go to whatever kind of memorial service the family held for him?  I decided that I wouldn't, because I just didn't feel like it was my place and I haven't really stayed in touch with the family, but since I liked my former FIL and have no hard feelings towards my former in-laws, I would send a card to my former MIL at the time.

A couple weeks ago, I got a call from my former MIL.  She was calling to tell me that her husband had died that morning.  I was really surprised, not because he had died, but because I sure didn't expect to hear from her at all about it, especially not a phone call the same day!  She sounded okay, but she was a little distracted because she was picking up John from school.  (She had called my cell while I was at work.)  She said that I could check the paper for his obituary to see arrangements.

So now I didn't know what to do.  Since my former MIL had called, instead of just receiving an email from XM about it, I was wondering if she expected me to be there.  I decided by the next day that I still wasn't going to go the memorial, but that I would send flowers.

Well, my former MIL called again a few days later to give me the details about the memorial.  She mentioned that she had told XM that he better behave at the memorial since she had invited both of his ex-wives!  I was surprised that she had invited his first wife, since last I knew those two women really didn't like each other.  But I think it was for the kids; she's their mom after all.

Even after the call from my former MIL, I decided to stick with my plan of sending flowers to the memorial and a card to her.  I mean, between XM's first wife, his current girlfriend, and him, I really don't need to be in that room!  However, once the obituary came out, it said that in lieu of flowers, the family would prefer donations to the Alberta Cancer Foundation.  So that's what I did, and still sent a card.

My former FIL was a nice man and kind of a sweetheart, I think.  I hope my former MIL will be okay.